Take a breath with me, Reader...this one is for you.

There’s a line from an ancient Jewish text that I come back to when life gets noisy or unclear:

“If not now, when?” (Avot 1:14)

Midlife has a way of bringing everything to the surface.

(And you get to define midlife however it fits your life.)

It reveals the places we’ve been going through the motions…

The ways we’ve been performing “good” while quietly starving for meaning.

For many people, this shows up first in relationship.

We love our partner.

We love our family.

We’re doing our best.

And still… something feels off.

Not necessarily broken.

Just unfinished.

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A Practice (for you… or to share)

Before you read on, pause for a moment.

Put one hand on your chest.

Take three slow breaths.

Let your shoulders soften.

Then choose one of the practices below… on your own, or with someone you trust.

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Option 1: A Solo Journaling Practice (5 minutes)

Without editing or fixing, complete this sentence:

The place in my life where I am going through the motions is… and what I’ve been postponing (avoiding) is...

If it helps, complete this sentence a few times:

“If I’m honest, what feels unfinished right now is…”

Don’t rush to solve anything.

Just tell the truth… to yourself.

That honesty is often the beginning of real change.

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Option 2: A Partnered Practice (10 minutes)

If you’re doing this with a partner, friend, or loved one, take turns completing:

“The part of me that feels most alive right now is… and the part of me that feels most neglected is...”

The listener’s only job is to say:

“Thank you for sharing this with me.”

No fixing.

No advice.

Just presence.

Notice what happens in your body when you’re truly heard… or when you truly listen.

That’s not accidental.

That’s capacity being rebuilt.

That’s the space I hold inside my work.

Some people come for men’s group work, through The Wisdom Circle… a six-month journey of integrity, embodiment, and relational leadership.

Some women are drawn to Surrender in Power… a space for softening without disappearing, and for reclaiming depth without losing strength.

Some come as couples, through Sacred Journey into Intimacy… to rebuild trust, deepen connection, and learn how to meet each other without armor.

And some choose private coaching… where we work with what’s most alive and most true in your life right now.

Different paths.

Same invitation.

To stop abandoning yourself.

To come back… to your body, your truth, and your capacity to love.

If you’re standing at a threshold…

If you can feel the quiet summons beneath the noise…

If not now, when?

Reach out.

I get you.

I've got you.

Let's go deeper.

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Ted

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Private Coaching Openings

In January, I’ll have space for two individuals or couples ready to step into a deeper engagement with me. This is 6-9 months of private coaching for those who know the old ways aren’t working… and who are ready to experiment with new ways of being, relating, and showing up. If you’re done performing and ready to rebuild trust, speak your truth, and create the intimacy you’ve been longing for, click on the photo to schedule a time to speak.