What are you afraid of, Reader?

Public speaking? Death?

Maybe it’s something even deeper... being seen.

You’ve spent years mastering the art of hiding behind success, humor, intellect, or performance...anything that keeps the world from seeing what’s real.

But here’s the paradox:
The mask you wear to feel safe is the very thing that keeps you from love, intimacy, and freedom.

I see it all the time.
Maybe you come to coaching wanting to break through your intimacy blocks. But the moment the spotlight shifts from your partner’s flaws to your own patterns, something in you pulls back.

Or maybe you’re the seeker — moving from workshop to workshop, book to book, coach to coach — chasing the next big aha. You keep looking for revelation out there, when the real work is usually right here... hiding in plain sight.

Or maybe you’re the high performer — you’ve conquered everything you’ve ever touched — but when the work turns from mastering a skill to meeting yourself, you vanish. Not because you don’t care, but because being seen feels more dangerous than failure.

We all long to be seen... and we’re terrified of it.
And telling yourself “don’t be afraid” is like saying “don’t think about fear.” It doesn’t work.

In Hebrew, the word for fear — yirah — also means awe.​
The idea here is not to erase fear, but to elevate it.
To shift from trembling before life to trembling in reverence of it.

Reb Nachman of Bratslav said, “The whole world is a very narrow bridge, and the main thing is not to be afraid.”​
Not because fear disappears, but because you keep walking — heart open, knees shaking — across the bridge anyway.

Try this:​
Next time fear arises before a hard conversation or a moment of truth:

1. Pause and breathe. Feel where fear lives in your body. Don’t push it away.
2. Place your hand on that spot and whisper, “I’m scared... and I’m still here.”
3. Take one small action that moves you toward what matters — a word, a breath, a step closer to truth.

Bravery isn’t the absence of fear.
It’s the sacred art of staying open while you tremble.

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I get you...I've got you...Let's go deeper,
​Ted

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P.S. Reflection: Where in your life are you still hiding... even from the people who love you most?

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Ready to see what it's like to be fully seen? I have space for one individual or one couple in December and another one in January. Click the photo to set up a time to speak.

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