Take a breath with me, Reader, this one matters.

This is a message for men — and for anyone who loves, works with, or is raising men.
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Partners, mothers, daughters, sisters, friends… this includes you too.
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Because...when men struggle, everyone around them feels the ripples.

Lately there’s been a surge of conversation about what it means to be a man.
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Scott Galloway’s Notes on Being a Man has tapped into something real, because he’s naming something many men feel but rarely say out loud:

Not failure.
Not fragility.
Just truth.

And that truth matters...for all of us.

What I appreciate about Galloway is that he isn’t interested in blaming men.
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He’s saying something much more honest: that men today are facing pressures they were never prepared for.

• Men are navigating greater economic uncertainty than generations before them.
• Men are lonelier and more isolated than at any point in modern history.
• Men have fewer mentors and fewer communities where they can speak honestly.
• And the cultural expectations about “how to be a man” have shifted faster than the tools we’ve given men to adapt.

And let me say this clearly — supporting men does not mean sidelining women.
It’s not a competition.
It’s not a zero-sum game.
And it is absolutely not the fault of women that men are struggling.

If anything, women have carried far more than their share for far too long.

Supporting men simply means helping men rise to the level where they can contribute, love, lead, and partner with more integrity, presence, and steadiness.
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That benefits everyone.

But here’s something that often gets missed in conversations about men:

Most men are carrying more than they know how to say.

They want to do well.
They want to show up.
They want to be someone their loved ones can rely on.
But they’ve been given very few places to put their fear, their uncertainty, or their tenderness.

We tell men to “be responsible,” but rarely give them room to feel what responsibility costs.

We tell men to “open up,” but often ask them to do it in moments when they don’t feel safe enough to try.

Here’s something I’ve learned in decades of sitting with men:

Men don’t need to be fixed.
They need to be met.

Met with presence.
Met with patience.
Met with an invitation instead of an interrogation.

If there’s a man in your life who feels distant or shut down, try this simple offering:

“I’m not asking you to explain anything.
I’m right here with you.”

No pressure.
No criticism.
No urgency.
Just space.

If you’re a man reading this, here is the version you can offer yourself:

“I don’t have to hold this alone.
I’m allowed to tell myself (and share) my truth.”

This kind of presence — simple, consistent, unforced — is what helps men come forward.
Not because they’re pushed.
But because they finally feel safe enough to be human.

When a man has a place to breathe, something in him softens.
He steps toward connection, toward honesty, toward himself.
And every relationship around him feels the shift.

Supporting men isn’t just good for men.
It’s good for all of us.

Blessings to you,
Ted

True North: A Workshop for Men

Sunday, December 7
1-4pm
San Francisco

A half-day reset for men who want clarity and direction. A powerful way to enter the new year grounded and awake.
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If you’re a woman reading this and thinking “my partner might need this,” feel free to forward it with care.

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The Wisdom Circle

January-June 2026
Redwood City

A transformational community for men ready to practice presence, integrity, connection, and depth — together, in brotherhood.

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Private Coaching Openings

In January, I’ll have space for two individuals or couples ready to step into a deeper engagement with me. This is 6-9 months of private coaching for those who know the old ways aren’t working… and who are ready to experiment with new ways of being, relating, and showing up. If you’re done performing and ready to rebuild trust, speak your truth, and create the intimacy you’ve been longing for, click on the photo to schedule a time to speak.