Where Are All the Good Men? Here’s What I See.

Hi Reader,

Last week, I was in Mt. Shasta, co-leading John Wineland's Embodied Men’s Leadership Training, which is a 6-month program for men committed to depth, integrity, and growth.

I’ve been part of this container since 2016. And, every time, I’m struck by the same thing:

Men show up not to complain, but to become.​
They don’t come to blame their partners, their pasts, or their pain.
They come asking:
​“How can I meet this moment with more honesty? More integrity? More presence?”

It’s not performative. It’s not for social media. It’s real.

The Wisdom Circle that I run in the Bay Area is the same.
It’s men, from all walks of life, coming together to learn how to listen better, lead with clarity, speak truthfully, hold boundaries lovingly, and live with purpose.

And for those of you wondering…

Let me tell you: they exist.​
They are gathering in circles. They are crying and sweating and breathing and remembering who they are.
They are learning how to love.

And not just in theory, but in practice.
In the uncomfortable conversations.
In the ruptures and the repairs.
In the ways they now show up for their partners, their children, their teams, and most importantly, themselves.

Indulge me please with a quick Hebrew lesson...

In Hebrew, the word for man is אִישׁ (aleph-yud-shin: ish), which shares a root with the word for fire: אֵשׁ (aleph-shin: esh).

A man is fire — fierce, powerful, and potentially destructive if untethered.
But when that fire is joined with aleph (presence) and yud (Divine spark), it becomes a force of sacred transformation.
Not just fire… but holy fire.

This is what we’re cultivating.
Not performative “niceness.” Not domination or detachment.
But a new kind of manhood that is grounded in truth, love, presence, and power.

The next cohort of The Wisdom Circle begins in July.
It’s a closed group. No drop-ins. No spectators.
Just men committed to showing up.

If you’re a man ready to step in (or know someone who is) and you want to believe this type of fire is possible...

I promise you, it is.

With fire and blessings,
​Ted

If something in you is burning — a longing for more truth, more connection, more aliveness — and you're ready to tend that fire with care and intention… I have one opening for a couple or individual beginning in August.

Whether you’re a man, a woman, or in partnership, this work is about learning to master your fire, not hide it.
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